How to Write a Eulogy

Wednesday, December 14, 2016
Writing a eulogy while you are grieving the loss of a loved one is difficult. To tell a story that shows your love and reflects the life of the deceased, use these tips to write your eulogy.

Eulogy Introduction

Give your eulogy context by telling the audience what your relationship was with the deceased. When was the first time you met them, and what struck you about them? What was your relationship like? As you brainstorm ideas, you may find that memories of the deceased naturally come to mind. Reflecting on these questions will help you develop a structure for the eulogy.

Eulogy Main Focus

The main focus of the eulogy should show what the decedent means to you, expanding upon the introduction. Many eulogies feature three stories that show different qualities of the deceased.

Do not hold back here. Any stories that have meaning to you can work in a eulogy, even if they are personal anecdotes that are new to the rest of the audience. If you feel drawn to share a humorous story, do so. It often helps those grieving the loss to reflect upon a funny or joyous memory.

Eulogy Conclusion

The conclusion of the eulogy should reaffirm the introduction, wrap up the eulogy, and leave the audience with some final words of comfort. If you need to make additional points to drive home your main message from the introduction, do so now. As you give the conclusion, the audience should understand the deep impact this individual had on your life, how much you miss them, and what qualities you most admired about them.

When preparing a eulogy, give yourself enough time to reflect, write, and revise. This way, you can develop a eulogy that honors the deceased without feeling pressed for time.

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